God created with words and He created us in His image so it should come as no surprise that our words are powerful.
Proverbs 18:21 “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”
When we speak, we are saying and creating “truths” not just about others but about ourselves. When I am upset with someone and I talk to somebody else about it, I’m not just telling people about them, I’m telling them about me. I’m growing that negative part of myself and spreading negative things about another person instead of facing that issue with the person I’m having the problem with; but how do I do that?
Ephesians 4:29 “Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.”
Speak truth in a way that is encouraging when I’m upset? That sometimes seems like a challenge. I have learned it is best only to speak when calm (I wait until my heart rate is normal). I also know that I am at times guilty of the foul or abusive language. What do I do then? When the damage is done?
Luke 17:3-4 ““If another believer sins, rebuke that person; then if there is repentance, forgive. Even if that person wrongs you seven times a day and each time turns again and asks forgiveness, you must forgive.”