God created with words and He created us in His image so it should come as no surprise that our words are powerful.
Proverbs 18:21 “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”
When we speak, we are saying and creating “truths” not just about others but about ourselves. When I am upset with someone and I talk to somebody else about it, I’m not just telling people about them, I’m telling them about me. I’m growing that negative part of myself and spreading negative things about another person instead of facing that issue with the person I’m having the problem with; but how do I do that?
Ephesians 4:29 “Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.”
Speak truth in a way that is encouraging when I’m upset? That sometimes seems like a challenge. I have learned it is best only to speak when calm (I wait until my heart rate is normal). I also know that I am at times guilty of the foul or abusive language. What do I do then? When the damage is done?
Luke 17:3-4 ““If another believer sins, rebuke that person; then if there is repentance, forgive. Even if that person wrongs you seven times a day and each time turns again and asks forgiveness, you must forgive.”
So I repent! What is repentance? It’s just realizing I am on the wrong path, confessing it to God or a believer and then changing my ways (changing my way is the action that reflects the change of heart).
How do I do that? I confess and apologize and then I pray a blessing over them. Because our words have power, we really need to understand we are cursing others and that this has repurcussions for both them and us. That is why we must bless them (here’s a good time to think about road rage, your boss, that girl that’s always rude to you…). Pray all sorts of blessings on them. Pray that they encounter God and are filled with His Spirit and He provides for their every need. Bless their home and their family and ask for abundance and generosity in their life. If you get cut off in traffic, pray they get somewhere safely, soundly and when they needed and that everything in their life works out according to God’s plan. Bless, bless, bless. Is it easy? No. Will you always be successful? No. But that shouldn’t deter you.
After a few weeks of making this a habit, this will change the way you see people and how you feel about them. It will also change the way you feel about yourself and God. It is crazy the level of peace and intimacy this habit creates. Plus, it’s good for your soul.
Matthew 12:36-37 “And I tell you this, you must give an account on judgment day for every idle word you speak. The words you say will either acquit you or condemn you.”